I came across something quite interesting recently – people’s reactions towards the news of me going back to China to be with my wife and give the support and love I can to her in this difficult time.  When I broke the news of resigning from my job and moving back to China permanently to be with my wife and her family many people had the expression of surprise and disbelieve on their faces.  It is usually followed with a question of why I had to go back too.

What’s shocking to me is that there are people out there who simply couldn’t get the reason why.  This so called question of ‘why’ did not even come across my mind, isn’t it the most natural thing to do?  Seriously, do these people actually consider the alternative to be a possibility???  Any one with a bit of  common sense would know that choosing to stay put, and ‘just get on with my own life as usual’ is a crazy action that is extremely short-sighted, selfish, irresponsible and simply shameful.  Any sane man will choose to stay close to his family and shoulder the responsibility of easing the pain and suffering of his family in every way he possibly can.  This is a matter of principle and honour, and is the role of a man and a responsible person.  All these might sound a little bit over the edge, but is there really an argument there?

Call me Nick, it’s not my real name but would I write the things that are sensitive or implicating if I did use my real name?  Don’t get me wrong, my blog is not about exposing the ugliness in the world, nor is it for the purpose of making offensive comments.  I just want to use this to share some of my feelings and experiences without causing any unease or embarrassments to people around me.

As you may have guessed, I’m a Chinese guy.  I spent my childhood in a northern city in China.  I’m in my early 30s and have lived half of my life so far in England.  I have a good education background that to many people it seems to be quite impressive.

Up until recently I’d been living in a life that I thought was pretty alright, I had a very stable job that was slowly turning into a good career, my wife (that’s right, I’m also married, to a beautiful Chinese woman) had a job that wasn’t particularly demanding and relatively high profile.  We had a healthy combined income that was enough to maintain a lifestyle that was typical in a consumerism world.  We didn’t have much of savings which we did worry about from time to time but we didn’t consider it serious enough to become a major cause of concern, this was mostly because our parents, from both sides of the families, were healthy both physically and financially.  Like many others, we had (and still have) our own circle of good friends that we’d known for years and were fairly close though we somehow felt that the friends were growing apart.  Basically, we lived quite comfortably here in the UK.

Everything was turned up-side-down by a phone call to my wife with the devastating news that her parents were both involved in a road accident.  I’m not going to say much about the specifics of the incident, what I can tell you are that she no longer has her father and her mother was left in a condition that she might never fully recover from.  I suppose you can imagine the chaos caused by the aftermath.  Well, to cut the story short, my life has been changed, unwillingly and completely.  I don’t know what direction my life is heading now, there is so much uncertainty in my life at the moment.  I want to use this blog to record what has happened around me since the incidnet.  I also want to share all these with you and hopefully get some opinions and feedback to help me along the way.

Here we go…